7 Ways to Work with Your Spirit Guide

My earliest awareness of having a spirit guide was when I was about seven years old. I was at a local swimming pool and met a boy named Skylar. When he introduced himself to me, I had this epiphany - 'I have a spirit guide named Skylar.'

I didn't become aware of spirit guides again until I was about 17, during what I call my second awakening. I read Sylvia brown's The Other Side and Back, and that book really changed my life. One theme that carried me through some of my early experiences delving into my spiritual curiosity was that we had angels and spirit guides.

I never doubted I had a guide; I just came from this place of trust and faith. I had a couple more experiences that took me to my third awakening, closer to my thirties, when I started honing in on the idea we are assigned a spirit guide.

1. Our Main Guide

I believe we have one main spirit guide, and this guide is our best friend on the other side. Someone who knows our deepest and darkest depths and loves us unconditionally. They will not let us fall too far or too hard and help us have the experience we signed up for. They help remind us that we are on the right path or nudge us a little bit to get us into alignment with what we came here to accomplish.

2. Meeting Your Guide

So, how do we know we have a guide? How do we communicate with them? How do we hear back? This has been a big area of obsession for me, and I've had many magical experiences in this area.

Try sitting in silence and connecting with your guide's energy. Are they male or female? Do they have a name? Just trust what you get; it's all part of intuitive development.

I feel like I am the only First Nations person without an Indigenous guide. When my guide appears to me during my meditations, he looks like Tom Cruise, a handsome Caucasian man. I find that to be kind of funny. Why does he appear to me like that? I don't know. I don't try to overanalyze it.

3. Talk to Your Guide

One thing I did early on was talk to my guide, just like I would speak to my mother. I would have a casual conversation in my head when driving in the car or cooking my dinner, just in these casual spots. I would talk to them about the day, any fears I was feeling, and any doubts I had.

I know that my guides come through without me being able or needing to see them, hear them, or even feel them. I know that they're listening. I'll have a month where I only want to see a few clients, and I'll say to my guide, 'I only want three readings a week,' and that's what I'll get. Working with my guides enables me to put parameters and boundaries around my energy work and spiritual practice. I know that they're listening and aligning magic to happen for me in that way.

4. Ask for a Sign

I'm a little more skeptical than your average psychic medium, and when I asked my guide for signs, they had to be physical in nature. I'd say, 'Skylar, I want to work with you. I want to feel when you're near me, and I ask you to come through with a physical calling card that we can work on identifying together.'

It took a few years and a lot of trial and error in practice, but now I have a calling card from my spirit guide; it almost feels like a finger touching my back with an electric shock. I feel this when I'm not looking for it, which is important to remember because we're constant seekers early in our spiritual development journeys.

I do not take these signs for granted. But I've developed trust and faith in their presence over the years, and he doesn't need to show up and smack me on the side of my head just to know he's there.

5. Who Our Guides Aren’t

I believe those we knew and loved in this life, who are now on the other side, are inspirations in our lives who influence us daily and bring us a lot of magic and synchronicities, but they're too invested in our happiness and our joy to be our spirit guides.

I had a near-death experience in 2016 and feel this is an experience I signed up for and couldn't avoid. Now, my grandmothers on the other side likely were thinking, 'Oh my God, save her from her own madness.' But my guide's approach is more likely, 'Hey, just sit back. Let's chill out and have tea. She signed up for this.'

Guides are less invested in ensuring it's all rainbows and butterflies for us here. They know we signed up for a certain amount of things to experience for our soul's expansion.

6. Calling In Specialty Guides

The thought of having multiple guides was hard for me to fathom when I first heard it. I like having one point-man, but I realize now that we can call in guides of certain expertise during certain points in our lives.

I was going through financial hardships a few years ago, and it was all for the greatest purpose of overcoming my fear of money and lack of money. I asked Skylar to hook me up with a guide with financial wisdom and experience who could help me with budgets, why I was overspending, and why I had this fear of not having enough. I would set that intention to call in a guide with that expertise and work with them through journaling and receiving inspiration. So, I do feel that we can call in other guides when we need them.

Even when I teach my classes, I call in my teacher guide. I say, 'I could use some wisdom and inspiration on how to connect with the people who've chosen to work with me today and help speak fluidly, clearly and through inspiration.'

7. Trust Your Own Experience

Many say they see their guides as clear as day in physical form. That is not my experience; I feel my guide. But really, one of the deepest ways that spirit connects with us is through inspiration.

Be open to spirit guides communicating with us all differently. It's through sitting in that silence and practicing, connecting with them and building that trust and faith that you will identify how you receive that information. Don't restrict how you may hear from guides based on other people's experiences. Try to experience it yourself and work with your guide on the language of your soul connection.

7 Ways to Work with Your Spirit Guide